Practice Makes People

Posted Thursday, March 19, 2015

My clients are often wondering—what answers do I have for them. I get it. We see someone farther down a path than ourselves and we want to know how they got there. It’s something we are all seduced by.

I used to carry a backpack around with me with 5-6 books. I did this for years. They were all great books helping me with my spiritual journey or how to be a better leader. I wanted to figure it out. I wanted to have the answers to what would make me the best version of me that I could be. As soon as I came to the place where I thought I had something figured out, I used the books to help others learn—that’s why I carried them around—so I could share the passages with others.

One of my friends suggested that maybe my attachment to the answers was an addiction of some sort and maybe I should try to go a few weeks without reading anything. 

I was terrified of the idea. I couldn’t imagine going anywhere without my backpack and certainly not willingly.

That’s when I knew that my friend was right. I needed to stop and see the impact.

So I did. I took a summer off. No books. No listening to talks or messages on how to live properly or be an amazing leader.

When we want to live differently or change things about ourselves, gathering information, talking to friends, and generally DOING things have their place. They build the muscles of knowledge and community. These are called practices of ENGAGEMENT. 

Far more difficult and counter-cultural are practices of DISENGAGEMENT. Some of these are rest, solitude, silence, meditation, and fasting. These practices build muscles of trust, peace, and love—especially self-love. 

My practice of disengagement was a book fast and it was hard but I learned some things about myself. 

  • I’m more than the information that I know. 
  • My friends want to be with me even if I don’t have an amazing insight to share.
  • I have a lot more to learn about what's inside me than I can imagine.

What about you? What practices of disengagement are you using? I challenge you to take a nap in the middle of your day, or spend an afternoon alone, or practice not speaking for a full day. See what happens. Let me know.

Practice makes people. Who are you practicing to become?  Read More »

Back In Action: A Note From Ken

Posted Monday, March 02, 2015

Hi! It's been two years since I've updated this blog. I'd love to share all that's occurred in the last two years and I imagine there will be time for all of that over a cup of coffee or a blog post or two. Until then, I want to share just a few things:
I'm coaching and training--full time. 

More than 10 years ago, I encountered a man that had left his corporate job and started his own company to train people how to be leaders. A couple years later, my company (ADP) hired a woman to be my executive coach. This man and this woman inspired me to leave the corporate path I was on in 2009 and find my dream of coaching and training. Today, all of my income is earned coaching one on one and traveling around the country delivering training. 

My path isn't what I thought it would be. 

Surprise! When I started Authentic Development, my plan was to be earning six figures within two years as a coach. That did not happen by any stretch of the imagination. Almost exactly two years after I left ADP, my life changed dramatically. (Divorce/Moving) I didn't give up though. I worked hard to market myself, build a client base, and provide for my family. In the end, I discovered I couldn't make ends meet on my own. I started looking for a job in the spring of 2013 and found one working at EHS as a full-time coach. I get to coach and train and they pay me for it. I'm tremendously fortunate. 

This is the year of expansion. 

I'm ready for the next step of my journey. Last year I started working on my Spanish language skills in earnest and now I'm just a few months away from being able to coach in Spanish. (Dígame si quiere hablar español conmigo.) In April I will start an intense 6-month certification program through CTI (my coach training school) with the goal of taking my coaching skills to the next level. 

Why I'm here:

Last year, I was attending a training and I was asked to boil down my life purpose into as few words as possible. What showed up has brought a fresh way for me to live my life. 

My life purpose statement: "I inspire"

The truth is that everyone who lives their fullest life is awe-inspiring. It is such an uncommon thing to see people so alive. So, I want that for my life and I want that for all the lives I encounter. When I use the "I inspire" filter for my own life, I realize that I have the ability to inspire others by simply following my dreams, making goals that matter to me, and doing the work to get there. That's enough--and that's a lot.

Today, I simply want to reintroduce myself. I'd like to use this blog to share with you stories about inspiring people and invite you to come alive as well. 

Thanks,

Ken
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What Would A Leader Do? (WWLD)

Posted Thursday, April 18, 2013




No more war!

Stop the fighting!

End gun violence!

Stop Child Abuse!

And in the words of Martin Richard—the 8 year old boy who was killed in Boston this week by a bomb: 

"No more hurting people: Peace"

Beautiful messages and sentiments that I and literally everyone I have spoken to support. But we are leaders, we need more! Something deeper. Something better.  Read More »




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