Just BE-ing is So Damn Boring

Posted Friday, May 18, 2012


These are the words of my client. All this "BE-ing" stuff is just so boring.

She's trying so hard. Trying to learn how to "BE." I must be doing something wrong, she thinks, because it's so much work to get there and when she does—it's just plain boring. Why bother?

Here's a truth. If you are struggling—it isn't being. 

Maybe you've had this issue. Your friends—your neighbors—your co-workers suggest to you that life isn't about the DOING—it's about the BEING. So you try. You decide to embrace this new way of life.  You take yoga or qigong classes and learn what it is like to be totally present with your body. You go on silent retreats to discover what being with your own thoughts will bring you. You meditate in the morning—every day—in order to center yourself and experience your day from a place of fullness and presence.

And this is exactly what many of us need to incorporate BE-ing into our lives. Some of us though—don't see the point. We struggle to quiet ourselves and then find no value once we are there. What's wrong with this picture?

Something here is amiss. Being isn't about going in a room and quieting yourself. Being is about living. Living in every moment while it occurs. There is plenty of doing going on in the midst of being.  

There is a reason these activities are called "practices"--(yoga practice, meditation practice, the practice of silence). It's about practicing BE-ing so that you can BE present in all the other moments of your life.

Here's another truth: You are already good at BE-ing.

Whenever you are able to both be present in a moment and present with yourself at the same time—those are "being" moments. For some of us—it's when we are on a stage singing. For others of us, it's when we are having a long talk with a good friend. For me, it's when I'm in nature with my friends—DOING something—but totally present. Where does time fly for you? It's probably in your being place. 

This week, try this: 

Try living from a place of BEING instead of a place of KNOWING. 
Try living from a place of BEING instead of a place of WORKING.
Try living from a place of BEING instead of a place of WORRYING.
Try living from a place of BEING instead of a place of TRYING.
Try living from a place of BEING instead of a place of DOING.


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