Perception is Everything...ummm Not Really

Posted Thursday, July 28, 2011

So, Canal Street. If you don't know about it, you haven't done much shopping in New York City. If you have, you know exactly what types of watches, purses, and electronics are available here. All fake, all illegal, but some of them very convincing fakes.

Here's the problem though—once you buy it—you know it's fake. You know that when you walk into a room with your gorgeous Prada or stylish Rolex, you are really only wearing $50 worth of merchandise—not the $5000 that the real thing might cost.

Do you get the same satisfaction that you would have gotten by the compliments and noticings that might go on? Do you feel happy about your wealth? Do you feel like you belong with the other people in the room with actual Rolexes?

I wonder about this with the fake war heroes out there. What is the satisfaction that they get out of telling stories about things that they never did? Do they gain any joy? What do they get out of it?

What is it about showing one face to the world while living with another? What fears keep us from fully opening up?

Does it come down to control? Attempting to control other people's perception of me? I think that has a lot to do with it. We want people to like us. Badly.

Here's the thing—I think what we really want—deep down—is for people to like the REAL us. The problem is—when we never show the REAL us, we can never experience REAL care.

It's sorta like when we buy a fake Rolex and people like it. Deep inside, we know that it isn't real and they wouldn't actually like it if they knew the truth. 

This is the core of the authenticity message. You show your true self to the world so that whatever you experience as a result is REAL. I challenge you to try it today. Just a little bit more than yesterday. I know vulnerability is hard—and scary. Try it anyway. It's my contention that the only way to give and receive real love is to be your real self. However, you get to decide. You get to choose if you want the beauty that results—and risk the pain that will come.

I have already made my choice. What's yours?

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