You're a Thinker

Posted Saturday, December 19, 2009

“You’re a thinker.”

My wife says this to me…somewhat annoyed…as I ponder a response to what she was just saying. I am still thinking and she is absolutely ready for an answer. She’ll get it but just not in the speed that she was hoping for.

This doesn’t mean that I’m not impulsive—far from it actually. What generally happens in my head is that I come to some sort of conclusion about what I’m going to say or do and when it finally comes out—that’s it, I’m ready for action. I’m ready to go to the store, cook the dinner, finalize plans, or in one case kick down the door of my house.

That’s right. I kicked down the door of my house. This was many years ago but I think it represents how I do things.

Picture a family of four with little ones piling into the car one Sunday morning. I am the last one into the garage and I shut the door behind me. It doesn’t take me long to realize that we are all in the garage and the keys to the house are inside. I just stood there for a bit—thinking about my options. In my head, I was certain that I couldn’t afford a locksmith and I absolutely knew that the only keys that could get me through that door were inside my house. I also figured that it was a garage door entrance as well so even if I damaged the door, no one would see it and hopefully I could fix it for less than a locksmith.

I didn’t confer with my wife or even have any second thoughts as I readied myself to kick the door. My foot was in full swing when my wife shrieked at what I was doing. It was too late. I kicked open the door. Grabbed the keys and said, “Let’s go.”

When we returned that afternoon, I fixed the door. The repair turned out to be less than $10 as I bought a small piece of wood and put it all back together with nails, spackle, and quite a bit of paint.

A thinker but also a doer. I don’t know how I got this way but it’s the only way I’ve ever known. This is me. I thought about starting a business for a long time but I always came back to the idea that I needed to have some teaching system or coaching method that was better than what was out there today. I needed to find that one amazing idea and turn it into a business plan. Then it struck me that my thinking was backwards; people don’t need another system or method to try to fit themselves into—we have enough of those in self-help books and one-day seminars. What people really need is a 1:1 relationship with someone that helps them figure out who they really are and where they are going. That’s why coaching is so successful for those that use it. It’s not about any system—it’s about looking at yourself and finding out what makes you tick. What makes coaching effective is that you have someone alongside you—holding you accountable and providing insights into yourself that even you might not have seen.

If you want help getting to where you want to be in your personal life or in your career—I encourage you to talk to a coach. You’re worth it.

Let me know if I can help.

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