We Don't Need Gun Control

Posted Tuesday, July 14, 2015

We Don't Need Gun Control.

Well, maybe we do--and I'm not going to argue with you from either side of this argument. Individuals on both side of the debate speak in terms of how obviously they are right. So keep at it--see how far that gets you in creating a better world.

Violence (granted GUN violence) born of racist hatred strikes Charleston and less than 24 hours pass and the debate focuses on primarily two things--gun controland the confederate flag. Both important discussions but I'm left wondering when we will EVER discuss what is really happening here! 

Gun control--even if it does everything the advocates say it would do would not change the polarized misunderstandings between urban/rural, north/south, black/white, progressive/conservative, etc... that exists in this country. Removing the confederate flag may make some of us feel good about moving a symbol of racism but it won't make a dent in the racial hatred that exists in this country. 

So I ask, what are we actually DOING that will make a difference? I think we are actually making it worse. The polarization of america is absolutely the biggest problem we are facing and it is rampant and gaining followers. 

We are at our core tribal people and when you attack my tribe, it doesn't make me more likely to join your tribe, it makes me want to destroy your tribe. You can't logic someone into changing their mind and you certainly can't use violence to get people to change.

Peace comes when the wiseman or wisewoman of my tribe reaches out to the wiseman or wisewoman of your tribe. When we understand your grievances and begin to see you as part of the same tribe as me--the tribe of humanity. 

I think the most beautiful shining example of this truth was the SCOTUS decision to make marriage legal for anyone regardless of sexual orientation. It is because in 2015, almost everyone loves, is related to, or in some way cares about an individual in the LGBT community (tribe). We've built so many relationships to the point where even the Supreme Court sees it differently. We are now a part of the same tribe. 

I am on a mission to become a wiseman. To create wisemen and wisewomen. I am on a mission to combine tribes. This is what I am doing. Will you join me? A true wiseman or wisewoman understands some core truths about the world that defines his or her way of dealing with the world.

1. Be kind, for everyone you meet is facing a hard battle. Ian McLaren (often attributed to Plato)

2. I have a responsibility for the pain that my fellow human is experiencing--my tribe helped create their tribes' pain and I acknowledge my role.  3. Listening and learning about those I don't understand is my first reaction.

4. Building relationship is the most influential action I can take to deepen understanding. If I can't build relationship with them directly, I will build relationship with people they respect or are in relationship with.

5. Teaching others the 'right' way will only be heard when asked. The wiseman or wisewoman saves his or her breath.

6. No one wakes up thinking what they are about to do is evil. Even Dylann Roof (assuming his guilt) believed what he was doing was for the good of his tribe.

The wiseman/wisewoman understand this and refuses to label anyone as a monster or less than human. Even when their actions (as in this case) are monstrous. If you really want change in America--take the path of the wiseman or wisewoman. I challenge you to consider building relationship with a human you might otherwise never be in relationship with.

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