Do You Smell Something?

Posted Thursday, May 19, 2011

So, what’s the stench in your life? The one you don’t notice? What’s the fragrance in your life—the one that only other people smell?

Think of it this way. Have you ever come back from vacation and noticed the odor of your house? I’m not talking about forgetting to take out the garbage—I’m talking about that special smell that other people know as the fragrance of your home but you rarely smell because it is yours.

You also have a way of looking at life that is uniquely yours—or unique to your community. That smell or odor or fragrance—whatever you label it—that’s a piece of you. That’s your perspective on life.

Once upon a time—not long ago—my odor contained quite a bit of judgment of others, better than-ness, and self-righteousness. I wouldn’t be surprised if the odor still lingers although I am working hard to exchange it for inclusivity, friendship, and authenticity.

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We're Creating Our Own Hell

Posted Friday, April 15, 2011

There’s a disease out there that affects millions. It is literally killing people every day. Nearly every family has at least one individual suffering from this disease. The kicker is that each of us that suffer from this disease chose it for ourselves.

I just had lunch with a longtime sufferer of this disease. Here’s a quick description. Ashley is a young professional woman. Single with a good job and striking good looks. She’s hired a trainer to keep her slim and paid a hefty sum for a 20 session package. Here’s the problem: the trainer barely shows up at 6AM. This has been going on for months and he continues to lie about why he doesn’t show up. So what does Ashley do? She gives him another chance, and another, and another. She finally does stand up for herself after he misses three weeks in a row and ask for a refund for the 10 sessions left. Why did it take so long? It’s because she’s so nice. She wants to make sure everyone is OK. That’s the disease: BEING THE HERO! Even in our conversation today, she was taking responsibility for the situation because maybe the time doesn’t work for him and the price she was paying was very inexpensive compared to what she’s heard other people pay. Really?   Read More »

Stop Waiting For It

Posted Tuesday, April 05, 2011

So, I was on vacation last week. Family vacation. We went to California and I re-discovered San Diego and we spent several days enjoying the sun in LA. We had some really fun times but the best day was when I rented a road bike and spent the afternoon riding up the Pacific coast. I love to bike. I love the sun. I love the ocean. I love a long afternoon to myself. I couldn’t have asked for a better day!

Another thing I did on vacation was pick up a book called The 4-Hour Workweek by Timothy Ferriss. My initial thought about this book was: “Who thinks that they can get all their work done in four hours a week? Who really thinks that they would still have a job if they tried to pull that off?” Those thoughts changed when I started reading.

 I was drawn into the book because it spoke truth right from the beginning about how most people that I know are experiencing their lives. A  couple of quotes:

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I Don't Have Any Answers

Posted Monday, March 21, 2011

Some potential clients come to me because they think I have the career, business, or life advice that will get them to where they need to go. I’m sure I’ve left several people dismayed when I share with them that I don’t have any specific advice for them. My approach is to ask them questions and help them piece together their own ideas about what it is that they want for themselves.

There is a reason why I don't have any answers.

Just the idea that I could know the answer for how to live your life is ludicrous.  Read More »

What You Can't Live With Runs Your Life

Posted Wednesday, December 15, 2010

I had a huge revelation the other day.

I have been choking my own life.

This was made totally clear to me as I was in a seminar that asked me one simple question;

What can I not be with?

In other words, what areas of my life am I unwilling to explore or deal with. What am I spending energy avoiding?

It was pretty obvious to me right away that I don’t want to be alone. I want to stay connected to people. As I dug deeper with the help of some coaches, I found that it wasn’t just aloneness that I was avoiding—I was running away from abandonment.   Read More »

Getting Punched In the Gut and Ten Things I Did About It.

Posted Friday, February 19, 2010

The job of your dreams. Hmmm. I don’t think you would find a single person in the world that would turn down an opportunity to take the job of their dreams if it was offered to them today.  Read More »

You're a Thinker

Posted Saturday, December 19, 2009

“You’re a thinker.”  Read More »

Real or Fake--The Discussion Continues

Posted Friday, December 11, 2009

I am generally a Starbucks drinker—I blame others (you know who you are) for this addiction but nonetheless, I love the white mocha and spend way too much of my money on this particular version of flavored water. However, it just so happens that I have been going to Caribou coffee a couple of times a week over the last few months. For those of you who aren’t in the know, Caribou is the “granola” version of Starbucks. Their marketing is all around the outdoors and I imagine that they would use the phrase “Carpe Diem” in their slogan if they could. Their actual slogan is, “Life is short, stay awake for it.” Recently they went through a major change in how they make their drinks. They are now using “real” chocolate in their drinks. They claim to be the only major coffee place to use “real” chocolate. I found this out as I ordered my standard drink (Turtle Mocha) a few weeks ago and was asked what type of real chocolate I would like to use: Guittard Milk Chocolate, Guittard Dark Chocolate, or Guittard White Chocolate. I wasn’t really sure but I tried the Milk Chocolate and I was not disappointed. My hope was that I would get the drink that I am used to but it turns out that it even tasted a little better.  Read More »

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