Posted Tuesday, August 14, 2012
"Am I deluding myself."
This is a common question. For me. For my clients.
It's a strong voice of doubt in my head.
There is really no way to know about how things are going to turn out. Yet, we try very hard make it turn out exactly how we expect it to.
- We want to know without a doubt that he or she will love me forever; so we tie the knot.
- We want to know that we will always have a place to rest our head; so we sign the paperwork on the thirty year mortgage.
- We want financial security; so we go to college and get a good job that allows us to save up some money.
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Posted Wednesday, August 08, 2012
I picked up the phone. I had been thinking about my friend for most of the day. We hadn't talked in a couple months and I knew there was a lot of transition going on in his life. I wanted to check in. The phone rang and he picked up on the first ring. Just prior to my call he had clicked on an email folder that he had set up from my company. Today was not such a good day for him. Today was one of those days that you can never be prepared for. I didn't know why he was on my heart today. Now I know.
I just graduated from a 10-month intensive leadership program that seemed an impossibility a year ago. I knew I had to go the minute I heard about it. So, I signed up, I took the leap. Four weeks later, my financial situation crumbled beneath my feet. I knew I was meant to go but I had zero funds. Then I asked for help. Within 3 weeks of asking for over $13,000 I had all the money. I was stunned.
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Posted Thursday, May 31, 2012
I was recently on a plane and the flight attendant spoke up about the safety information she was about to share. She said, "It is better to know this information and not need it than to need it and not know it. This information could save your life." Good point!
Here is a list of "truths" that may save your life—specifically save you from living a life that EVEN YOU believe is not worth living.
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Posted Wednesday, January 04, 2012
Imagine you in your home, winding down from a long day and the door bell rings. You open the door and there is a solitary unicorn standing there. You are understandably surprised. You are shocked when the unicorn starts speaking to you and in english says, "Get on! Let's go for a ride!"
What's your response? Of course you are going to get on the unicorn. You are either in a dream or it's a chance of a lifetime—so no matter what—you are going to go for a ride.
Is there anything magical in your life? Anything that has you in awe? Is there anywhere in your life where you experience unbridled joy?
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Posted Thursday, September 08, 2011
I know, I know…you were there and I wasn't so how can I say that your stories are made up. Easy. All of our stories are made up.
I'm not saying the facts or details aren't true—I'm just saying that when you tell yourself that story today—YOU make up the meaning and give it the power to influence your life. Someone else who went through the exact experience might have a completely different story.
Let me illustrate. So the biggest story of my life got flipped on its head recently.
I come from a big family. I have a total of eight siblings. However, when I was five years old, my parents divorced and my mother quickly remarried and moved to Germany with her new husband. I was one of the youngest and was raised by my father and stepmother with almost no contact with my mother.
So my story went something like this: "My life was ruined when my mom left me." I believed that I was abandoned by the one person that I needed most in the world. This story had HUGE consequences on how I showed up in the world—both good and bad. Read More »
Posted Thursday, August 11, 2011
I have a problem. I like to be right. I've always been this way—at least as long as I can remember.
In grade school, sometimes the only thing I had to hold onto was the fact that I was right about the answer. One not so emotionally intelligent teacher gave me some advice on how to deal with bullies that called me names; she told me to tell them to "prove it." For all the bullies and for the bullied out there—you know what happened when I said "prove it." The bullies just started chanting prove it, prove it, prove it.
I learned though—that I could know the most and have at least some confidence as I went through my life. I definitely enjoyed proving people wrong—which didn't win me very many friends as a young student.
So midway through high school, I decided to completely choose my religion. I was cocky, bold, and used to getting picked on. Not such a great combination. I soon took the messages of love that were given to me by my church and turned them into messages of exclusion. I was genuinely worried about the souls of my friends, my girlfriend, and co-workers. I quickly learned as much as I could about how to evangelize everyone who was far from God (at least from my point of view.) I wore t-shirts that proclaimed my devotion to Jesus and every conversation I had with someone that didn't believe like I did was an opportunity to tell them about the "good news."
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Posted Tuesday, May 31, 2011
Have you ever felt like the universe was trying to tell you something?
Several years ago I decided to go to motorcycle safety school so I could buy a harley and hang out with my best buddy on Saturday afternoons in the summer. My plans were changed when I fell off my bike during the training and although I wasn't hurt physically, I ended up with a concussion and amnesia. It was probably the scariest day of my life as I couldn't remember anything in the last several months of my life--including going to see the team of my childhood in a playoff game.
My memory mostly came back (I still don't remember the fall) and a few months later I started considering going back to the class and going after my dream of having a motorcycle. My buddy was headed to the Bike Expo and I decided to come along. On my way into the building I was walking through the parking garage--just minding my own business--and I rammed my head into a pipe that was hanging down. I hit it so hard I saw stars.
It was in that moment that I decided that the universe was saying as loudly as it could: DON'T DO IT.
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